Ok, so like I've stated before, my age is a disadvantage for meeting mister right (under the slim margin that there is a such thing).
The problem is not in the fact that there are no guys (well, the lack of good guys may be somewhat of an issue...) but in the fact that the forum to find a good guy is gone by this age. By now, most people have settled into nice comfy relationships and are happy with the current status or have gotten married.
These people have find their mate in a slim window of time that is the ideally perfect forum for such a thing to blossom. Either they have met the person in high school (where they see the person everyday and were able to be forced to be around the person in a sense which allowed them to get to know them) or they have met the person in college (same forum style). These places are ideal for finding relationships. After this time in your life has expired, its pretty much all luck based if you can meet someone after this and here's why (at least for me):
I DO NOT want to meet a guy at a club or a lounge. I compare this to a guy meeting a girl and falling in love knowing she is a stripper. She was doing it when she met you, so what makes you think she will stop (same rules apply for the guy). There's nothing wrong with the occasional going out with the boys to have a good time...but for the most part, the club rat is scavaging for more than just a good time....and you can't be mad if you already knew this beforehand.
Then, there's random various places that you may run into someone. The bowling alley, the mall, the bookstore...problem is that this is a one time encounter. For me, this is a problem for several reasons. 1: I like to get to know a dude and feel him out before I give him my number...otherwise you put yourself in a situation where the dude can be a lame and blow your phone up....and you are to blame for giving him your number. 2. This guy only has one shot to make a killer impression. Meaning you can miss out on something good easily or accept someone bad easily. I'd rather cut out all the guess work and have a few encounters to know someone before it gets to this.
Then there's work. Don't get me wrong, this is possible, but a lot of problems arise from this as well. If the two of you work immediately around eachother there's that too-much-of-a-good-thing issue. I love my space, and if you are constantly in my face this may be a problem (clause: for where I work now this is not so much of an issue as only 2 other people have 100% access to the office that I work in). Then there's the possibility that the two of you get in a fight...in which case its bad to have to work around this person and harbor ill feelings, bringing it into the place where you bake your bread....It could work...but its definitely dependant on the situation.
The only 2 places that could be ok to meet someone after school are still somewhat flawed...
1. church...but here's my problem with that: there's something that makes me uneasy by hooking up with someone in the Lord's house....call me crazy....I'm just not comfortable with that one.
2. the gym...perhaps the best option....which possesses a lot of flaws as well. For the pros: if you go during the same time every week, you may start to see the same faces, and start meeting prospects. Its also a friendly forum...people are relieving stress so everyone's happy. Then, you know the guy cares about his well being...win, win, win!...but on the flip side, you are all hot and sweaty and nasty...pretty much at your worst. On top of that, I can't find it in my heart to fully commit to the gym. Don't get me wrong, I respect the gym and what it means to a lot of people...it just doesn't have the possibility to be that big for me...at least right now. This is not only because I couldn't hold weight with two hands and a bar..but also because I don't have one of those addictive personalities. I easily lose interest in stuff... It appears its all lose, lose...especially when I'm paying by the month.
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying finding a relationship after school is not possible... but, lets just say your chances are cut drastically. And this is where I am...